Welcome to Confiding in You, a blog for anyone who needs to get something off his/her chest and who doesn’t have anyone else to tell that the best thing in the world, or the worst, just happened. Here, in this anonymous web world, I hope you are able to share your fears, secrets, desires, regrets, grief AND joys and other special or unique happenings in your life. You might be inspired by the life experiences and challenges you read from others. And maybe you can share your unique perspective about them. Maybe you’ve kept a secret so old that you have to get it out, but it might hurt too many in your personal life to tell. Tell it here.
After living on this planet for 40+ years, I realize that so much of what we experience is fairly universal. We struggle through the teenage years and can’t wait to be “a grown up.” We grow up, many of us marry and have kids. Some tackle college and some jump right into the real world of independence. We have jobs we like or hate, or both sometimes. The kids make us nuts but also bring us such joy. Well, not always. I have some friends that might disagree with that. And that is the point of this blog. Finding a connection with someone else who might have some pearls of wisdom to offer the world as well as kinship.
Just to be clear, I am not a counselor or psychologist. I, like many of you, have my own set of challenges. When I was at a crossroad and had no one to talk to, Confiding in You is that place I wish I had had to unburden myself. I had experienced some things that I thought no one else had and I felt very alone. Interestingly enough, I also had some great insights into myself but no one to share them with. I looked in book stores and I scoured the web searching for some place I could share my self with. I was looking for a place like Confiding in You.
I know, I know, you think this blog is just for “bitching and moaning.” Not true! We want to hear about how beautiful your daughter looked when she walked down the aisle at her wedding on her journey to a new life . We want to hear about that hot new guy at work that just asked you out, except (oops) he’s married! And what about your dreams for the future? We are never too old to stop dreaming. I’m back in school after 20 years and am finally on my way to realizing my dream, part of which is to write to be heard. It’s exciting and intimidating, all at the same time. I bet many of you can relate. Please share!
When life sucks, it’s nice to know you’re not alone. And when something terrific happens and you are bursting to share it with someone NOW, this is the place for you to post those thoughts and feelings!
Welcome aboard!
Finally! A place where people can go and unload their emotional baggage and maybe grab some advice from people who are in the same boat as they are, or once were, but overcame that place.
Gotta love the piece on Walmart shopping! I too love to shop at the Whole Foods, etc., but in today’s economy, who can afford that?! Our family has also decided to shop at Walmart because this World does not realize organic should be less costly. I am certain there are measures companies can take to grow quality products and still sell them at a reasonable rate. (Sidenote-Meijer does sell organic products at a reasonable rate, and it is a good product.)
Oh to be in your head! All those thoughts running through your head all the time—how do you get anything done or any decisions made?!
Thank you for setting up this blog! I hope others will find this comfort place to bear all safely.
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I love the concept of this blog! It’s kind of like confiding in a priest, but without the creepy pedophilia overtones.
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Except where’s YOUR confession? Everyone has a secret….I know you do!
Ok–here is one of mine.
There have been three occasions in my life when I have written about very personal feelings (and of course all of them involving boys/men). For each occurrence, my most private thoughts have been made PUBLIC for the world to see. It’s utterly amazing that I still choose to write!
Let’s take a look down my memory lane, shall we?
#1–The setting: small town on the shores of Lake Michigan, summer of 1980. Two adolescent girls are best friends and spend their entire summer together hanging out.
I have a huge crush on her older brother and my friend has a crush on his best friend. We spend much of our summer talking about “the boys” and writing in a diary that we shared and took turns writing in. Well, one day, we had had enough of “the boys” and decided to get rid our diary. Rather than burning it, throwing it in the trash, even cramming it in the garbage disposal, we had to take another option. Remember our proximity to Lake Michigan that I mentioned in the setting? Well…how much better to fling our diary with all of our boy secrets and most personal adolescent feelings inside, INTO Lake Michigan. Brilliant, right? Except that waves typically bring items ashore, like driftwood, garbage, broken glass, and OUR diary! Needless to say, “the boys” found it and POSTED it at the park where everyone hung out which happened to be located across the street from grandma’s house! It stayed posted for a day until after all the neighborhood kids had gotten a good laugh at it. To this day, I don’t know who took it down.
That was humiliation #1.
Don’t know if this is of interest to anyone or not, so I won’t go into #2 and #3, except to say my mother read a letter that I had written to a boy I was dating and the final occurrence is too devastating to write about as I’m still suffering it’s consequences.
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Hello Persephone~
So you know who this is… very well I might add. You know me better than probably anyone in this world. Take a guess!
I was so excited when you told me the idea of this blog. Finally you had found something that you were passionate about. With this you can help yourself by opening up to a blank slate as well as help others by giving them a place to write their deepest and sometimes darkest secrets. I know that you could have used a place like this a little while back when your life was being torn apart and I am so proud of you for using those events and emotions to start this wonderful place.
And now onto a little about me at this point in time. Right now life is stabilizing. Although this week has been one of the worst in awhile. On Monday one of my very good friends was hanging out with me when he suddenly ran into the hallway sobbing. I hung up the phone and ran after him. I found him slumped in the hallway shaking, tears pouring from his eyes. His boyfriends mother had just sent him a letter via facebook telling him that if he ever contacted her son again she would call the police and have him arrested. This had not been the first time that she had threatened him, however, this time she was serious. She did not like the fact that her son was gay and blamed my friend for it. The situation escalated when he said that he didn’t want to live anymore. Back in my room I had to hold him down because he tried to smother himself. The cops came and we had to convince him to go with them so he could get help. The night was one of the worst since being at school. How do you say no to your friend when he is looking into your eyes pleading with you to let him die? Now he is at a hospital, returning tomorrow. A difficult start to a week. Well it has been great chatting but I have to go to the library to study for French. Au reviour!
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Dear Ink–So sorry to hear about your friend and sorry to get back to you so late. I’ve gotten myself involved in more community stuff, which you know I love, but which takes over my life!
How is your friend?
Is he going to stay in counseling?
I hope his parents came to see him. How are you all with this?
Speaking from my experience, it’s difficult to be friends with someone who is in serious crisis like that because often they are their own worst enemy! My guess you are able to recognize some of his own behavior that contributes to his depression. Just be careful to not “own” his problems. Support him, accept him and love him.
I’m proud of you !!!
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